Well, You Already Have One...

Ah, people can be so charming can't they? If you are TTC your second child (whether you had an easy or difficult time with the first) and are having a difficult time conceiving, this little gem comes up often. People think that just because we have one child, our goal is complete or that we should not even want another because we already got what we wanted. But it goes so much deeper than that. How can you explain to someone that your family isn't complete? Especially if that person has had no problem conceiving their 245366564 kids. 

Simply put? Tell them to stick it. They are never going to understand what your complete family will feel like to you and they will never understand the tears, the money, the hormones (gawd the hormones!), the disappointment, the procedures, the tests, and the frustration we endure to make our families "complete" (And let's not forget the downright soul crushing sight of those people having 2455467357 kids).

It's hard to explain to anyone who doesn't truly understand what you are going through how it makes you feel and sometimes, people say things that are meant with good intentions, but come out terribly wrong (most notably family and close friends). And then there are the people who don't even care to try to see how it makes you feel and say things out of genuine stupidity not giving a care of how it could affect you. 

Try explaining to the people with good intentions that your family just isn't complete with one baby. Make them understand that it's just a feeling you have that you "aren't done" and try to see if they can relate to the feeling of being done or not done. That will be the easiest way to make the people who care about you understand.

For the other people...

There's really no hope. We haven't found a cure for stupidity yet and it's not looking like we will ;)